Elegy For Jody Ballew

Joseph Aaron Ballew

May 1, 1982 – September 2, 2025

Hi y’all! Thanks for being here.

We built this site because Jody contained, and drew close to himself, multitudes. He was so much more than a few column inches. He was a force that wrapped around communities. He was whip-smart, fearlessly curious, furiously creative, and dedicated to doing right. He worked hard at everything he cared about, and he left all of us with something worth remembering.

Each of us saw some of the infinite facets of Jody Ballew: the student, the artist, the friend, the lover, the comedian, the preacher, the dog parent, the builder, the caretaker… this is a space to curate our memories of him.

As much as some shallow pixels just won’t do him justice, we hope that, by coming together here, we can create something deeper in our own hearts. Share your favorite photos of him or from him… write a story about him or retell ones that he told you… upload pieces of his art or writing that you’ve treasured. Take a look at what others have shared; you’ll probably find moments that resonate with you or inspire you to share further.

Together, we can use this space help one another mourn what we have lost and hold close all that he has given us.

Shared Photos

Here’s where we gather the snapshots that remind us of Jody: his smile, his art, his adventures, and the little everyday things that make him so precious to us.

Each thumbnail below represents one entry into the album, which may contain many photos – click on any panel below to see a larger version of the first photo, and if there are multiple photos in the set, you can advance through them like a slide show. Go to the Photos Archive page to also see captions submitted about the photos.

Photos from Sarah
Photos from Jennifer McCall
Pilgrimage to New York
Yael
Photos from LJ Pemberton
Texts from 2020
Chattanooga, August 2017
Selfie
Eight Sided Die
Poem
Yael
Photos from Lisa & Jim Scully
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In Our Words

Jody left behind so many stories: the ones he told, the ones he lived, the ones we carry. Click through any panel below to read what others have written most recently, or use the “View More Stories” button below the panels to see all contributions.

The Spytastic Adventures of Jody and Joe

The Spytastic Adventures of Jody and Joe

A lot of my memories of Jody involve missions both great and disastrous. Jody and I roaming the North Georgia countryside, before the days of everything-is-on-Amazon, trying to locate a video card for his Hewlett Packard (FAILURE, found a card, card didn't fit). The quest to bum enough money to wa... Read More
In living memory of Jody

In living memory of Jody

Joseph Aaron Ballew was more than just a cousin; he was a cherished part of my life. I treasured every moment we spent together, and I know he looked up to me, which filled me with gratitude and love. His presence brought joy and warmth, and I feel blessed to have shared so many memories with him. T... Read More
Karaniya Metta Sutta: The Buddha’s Words on Loving-kindness

Karaniya Metta Sutta: The Buddha’s Words on Loving-kindness

(As read at Jody's memorial service on 9/19/25): This is what should be done By one who is skilled in goodness, And who knows the path of peace: Let them be able and upright, Straightforward and gentle in speech, Humble and not conceited, Contented and easily satisfied, Unburdened with duties and fr... Read More
On Being a Carrot in God’s Garden: Poem by Barbara McAfee

On Being a Carrot in God’s Garden: Poem by Barbara McAfee

(Shared at Jody's Memorial on 9/19/25) You can be sure the hand will pull you from the ground. You can be sure. No matter how longingly the earth presses against you, no matter how sweet the mineral sips at the tips of your roots. No matter how comfortable your solemn unchanging days, when you are r... Read More
Friendship, humor, and art

Friendship, humor, and art

It was almost impossible not to love Jody in college. They were quick to be friendly, snarky to a fault, and always funny. After college, we drifted in and out of each other's orbit many times. One time, they gave me a guitar from another friend who had recently passed away. Just out of the blue. Th... Read More
A more unique soul there never was.

A more unique soul there never was.

I have known Jody and been best friends with him for about 35 years. The amount of stories and words I have for and about him cannot possibly fit into this. We had sacred bonds and he was more family to me than a lot of blood relations. He was The godfather to my son, who he loved deeply as if it we... Read More
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Jody’s Work

Jody poured his creativity, his perspective, and his love for the world into everything he created. This section gathers his artwork and writings – pieces he made, and pieces others saved. Click through any panel below to see a piece of his work, or use the View More button below the panels to see all contributions.

Work uploaded by Chris

Work uploaded by Chris

Paintings by Jody

Paintings by Jody

The dawning enlightenment of man. Keeping contracts whether I come out or not. A grand experiment with stopping doing wrong and the psychology of it. My art is all code when I'm having a good time. I unlock my fiction with these visuals. Then sprint. Then collapse. I don't pity myself anymore ... Read More
there are prettier parts to Hillbilly Hoodoo – nun farm, Cows, Mercy, and oxytocin

there are prettier parts to Hillbilly Hoodoo – nun farm, Cows, Mercy, and oxytocin

Written by Jody on 2/3/2020.This was taken at a farm event in North West Connecticut. A farmer came out with his border collies to demonstrate their ability to herd sheep. The sheep on my shoulders jumped the fence and got in with the cows. Everyone exclaimed and no one else would do anything, so I ... Read More
Eventually, I just had to learn to ignore the imposter syndrome

Eventually, I just had to learn to ignore the imposter syndrome

Originally posted by Jody on March 17th, 2020. That was like last week and now I'm feasting and dancing in Jerusalem. I suppose it was the return to prayer that made all this possible. The birth of real love between sufficiently nuanced psychic nerds. The breakdown. The other breakdown. The Foggy Mo... Read More
The Horseshoe

The Horseshoe

Note From Contributor: This is an excerpt of an early iteration of a theme Jody worked on over the years. I hesitate to call it a story, it was lore. Mythology. i wish i could cleanse my voice remove all these follies loopy Dec 23, 2010, "Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the ... Read More
JBWC

JBWC

submitters note: Jody wrote this for the "about" page of the website he built to represent "J Blue Websites for Construction," his web development LLC, but I think that it's much more than that. This just perfectly encapsulates his style, his philosophy, and his spirit. "I grew up a contractor’s ... Read More
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The Hoodoo Lives On

This site is a continuation of an idea Jody had been exploring for years. He was shaping a kind of lore, a meeting ground where art, story, and unlikely communities could come together. What we’ve built here grows from that same impulse. It carries forward the threads Jody spun, weaving them into a collective memory that keeps expanding.